[Me, basking in the sun on a recent trip.]
It’s that time of year, you guys! The halfway point. We made it through those gloomy final days of winter, through the blustery, restless first days of spring — and now the promise of summer glimmers just ahead, like sun sparkling on a calm lake.
So how about celebrating this half-way point in the year by reflecting back and looking forward? In this post, I’m sharing:
- The single greatest thing I’ve learned about my style in 2025
- A look forward to what’s next (hint: it’s a big change — you don’t want to miss this!)
Get yourself some tea or a glass of wine and let’s jump in!
The single greatest thing I’ve learned about my style so far in 2025
This year, I’ve been learning something simple, but life-changing:
Choosing what to wear each morning is a chance to communicate to myself that my preferences are valid, my voice matters, and my opinion counts.
There’s a lot of talk about clothing as communication — what it signals and says to others. And yes, clothing does speak to others.
But this year, I’ve been tuning in to another frequency — not what my clothes say to others, but what they say to me.
Not the “me” that I think will be easiest for others to understand. Not the version of me that fits neatly into someone else’s idea of what a 30-something woman should wear.
Just me.
It’s a chance to give weight to my own voice.
This seemingly small thing can be revolutionary — especially if you’ve been in seasons of self-doubt, or if you’ve been in relationships or situations that have made you feel small or unworthy.
Any moment you choose to say, “I’m on my own side,” — even with something as simple as getting dressed — is a moment of real power.
I’ll say it again: Never underestimate the power of telling yourself, even in the smallest way: I’m on my own side.
And honestly, it’s this very shift that’s led me to start a new chapter.
What’s next for Unfancy: A look forward
For a long time, I believed — maybe even unconsciously — that my creative work didn’t “count.” That staying small was more noble. That sharing outfits and the emotional layers beneath them was nice, but not necessarily worth taking seriously.
But I don’t believe that anymore.
As I’ve navigated profound grief and the aftermath of divorce these last three years, I’ve come to know that the visual voice (aesthetics, fashion, design, etc) is far from frivolous — it’s central to how we make meaning as human beings. Across cultures and eras, we’ve used the visual voice not only for beauty or comfort, but to root ourselves in our lives, community, and sense of place.
It is deeply important work to me. And over the years, I’ve seen how much it resonates with you, too.
So, after a decade of writing here, I’m stepping more fully into this work by moving Unfancy over to Substack — a blogging platform that encourages thoughtful writing, and allows my work to be reader-supported. This change opens space for the kind of content that emerges when the goal isn’t to make an ad or promote a product, but to share ideas. And I’m so excited about it.
First, just know, nothing major is changing:
- The daily outfit posts you’re used to will still land in your inbox a few times a week, just like they always have. And they’ll always be free.
- You don’t have to make a Substack account or download an app or anything like that.
- If you’re subscribed here, you’ll automatically be subscribed there — no action needed.
What is changing, however, is exciting and meaningful: Starting now, you’ll have the *option* to support Unfancy through a monthly subscription. If Unfancy has ever felt like a steadying place for you — something you look forward to or return to — this is a way to support it directly.
I’ve whipped up all kinds of fun benefits for paid subscribers like:
- Deep-dive wardrobe posts on building realistic capsule wardrobes, how to decode style inspiration, creating seasonal outfit formulas, and more.
- Personal posts on self-expression, visibility, and vulnerability.
- An eBook instant download | Well, That Didn’t Work: Finding Resilience Through Regrettable Clothing Purchases | A short book on how I’ve learned to use clothing mistakes as an unexpected portal to self-kindness and resilience.
- A printable workbook instant download | The Unfancy Style Guide printable workbook | An updated, never-before-released version of my original capsule planner — a tool that’s been downloaded over a million times and counting.
- And…private Spotify playlists 🙂
Eeee, I’m so excited about it all!
So, how much does it cost? $6 a month — about the price of one latte.
But for you guys — who’ve stuck with me through the skinny jeans years, the 10×10 era, and that one time I got bangs — for this weekend only, I want to give you 10% off through this link. That means it’s just $5.40 a month. It’ll expire on Monday, so snag it if you want.
We all know that the internet tends to reward loud takes and rage bait. Supporting work like mine is a small way of saying, “Actually, I like the slower stuff. The gentle stuff.” It helps keep calm corners of the internet alive.
No matter what — whether you enjoy the free outfit posts or become a paid subscriber — I’m just honored to have you there.
• • •
So, the blog will go quiet now.
The lights will dim.
The archives will remain, but no new content will be posted here.
If I’m being honest, it’s bittersweet, like I’m leaving a beloved home — that strange moment of standing in an empty house where you’ve made so many memories, after the last box has been loaded in the truck.
If I could, I’d reach out for your hand. I’d say, “Thanks for being along this journey with me — I’m so grateful for you.” We’d take a breath. Think of the good memories. And then walk out the door and into a new chapter together.
It’s not the end. There’s so much more to come.
The lights are on at Substack. Same Unfancy, new home.
And I’ll see you there. The first post will land in your inbox next week, like usual. 🙂
With all my love,
P.S Do you have a favorite Unfancy memory? A ritual of reading? A post you always come back to? I’d love to hear! Drop it in the comments below.
P.P.S Feel free to poke around the new site, and use this link to get your 10% off before it expires on Monday.
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